“Don’t tell God How big your problems are. Tell your problems how big God is” ~Anonymous.
Someone once said “Life is a series of problems which we must try and solve”
Is this how you find your life? A series of unending struggles to get rid problems?
Problems with your Boss.
Problems with your spouse.
Problems at work.
Problems at home.
Problems between people.
You know problems are part of life, don’t you? They won’t go away.
I can’t promise you a life without problems. But I can share a simple way to deal with problems without getting all stressed up.
Too much stress will suck the energy out of you.
I admire people who deal with problems so well. They don’t explode into angry rants. Nor do they get sucked in a dialogue with themselves.
Instead they radiate a sense of calm & do what’s necessary to deal with the problem.
Do you know people like this? They’re amazing aren’t they? How do they do it?
I’m going to show you how you can be just like them. Because this is a skill that can be learnt.
Messing up a negotiation
Early 2012, I was in a negotiation to sign a crucial contract with a new vendor. It was the beginning of a long-term relationship for our business.
And I did terribly.
I mean goofed it up. Totally.
The other party used every trick in the book & I fell for it.
At the end of it I felt like such an idiot.
Then began these stressful thoughts devouring my mind for the next several days.
“How could I have been so stupid?”
“Why did this always happen to me?”
“Why did I say that?”
Luckily the negotiations didn’t conclude and there was going to be a 2nd meeting.
I vowed I wouldn’t make the same mistakes. So before the second meeting, I began devouring all the books & MP3s I had on negotiation.
During the 2nd and final meeting, I turned the tables around. I not only got what I had in mind but was also able to keep the other party happy.
Looking back I realize that goofing up on the first meeting became an opening for me to learn a new skill. Had I not learnt the art of negotiation I’d probably remain dumb and end making bigger mistakes.
How to get rid of Stress from problems
Just like in my experience above, every problem presents to us a hidden opportunity. The secret to removing the stress is to look at problems as an opportunity.
When you’re faced with a problem, ask yourself this Question to find the hidden opportunity:
“How can this problem help me Grow?”
The growth can be Physical, Spiritual, Intellectual or Emotional.
Let’s apply this question to common problems:
The traffic jam is driving me nuts “How can this problem help me Grow?”
I can listen to something on my iPod. I can practice patience, breathing & being in the present moment.
I have a very demanding boss. “How can this problem help me Grow?”
Working with a demanding boss will help me come out of my comfort zones.
I’ve got so much to do! My life is out of control. I feel like a complete wreck. “How can this problem help me grow?”
I need to re-look at my priorities, and focus on what is most important.
My Spouse doesn’t give me the love & attention I yearn for. “How can this problem help me grow?”
A sign I need to have a deeper dialogue with my spouse. The meaningful discussions will make our relationship more fulfilling.
I feel bloated. My trousers don’t fit me anymore. “How can this problem help me Grow?”
A sign my eating habits need to change. I can get into a fitness regime to maintain my health & self-esteem.
The moment you apply this question, the reason for stress goes away. It melts like ice in the sun. And it’s replaced with a feeling of gratitude.
The next time you face a problem, don’t complain. Instead, talk back. And say “How can I grow today?” 🙂
I first heard this story in one of the lectures of Sheikh Arif. What a beautiful story. Since then I have quoted it often in conversations and speeches. It explains so well the Omnipresence of the Creator.
Truly if God is present everywhere, the questions “Where is God?” and “How is God?” are faulty questions. As Imam Ridha responded, “He determined the “Where” and fashioned the “How”. He was, when there was no “where” and no “how”. He is not known through sense perceptions. He has no body & no abode. He is the Hidden & the Manifest, the Distant & the Near. Eyes cannot see Him but He is visible…to our heart & mind.”
Since the time we launched Sufi Comics, one feedback we would often receive is to have the comics in color. For sometime now we’ve been experimenting with this suggestion. I’m pleased to let you all know that “40 Sufi Comics” is now available in full color!
We’re working a new Sufi Comics book in collaboration with Artist friend Rahil Mohsin & Calligraphy Master Muqtar Ahmed. It’s called “The Wise Fool of Baghdad”. Inshallah It’s going to be a beautiful book & very rich in color! Look out for previews and photographs!
We have all heard the saying “There are 2 things certain in this world Death & Taxes”. We all know that none of us can escape death. It is the destiny of every person. It is strange that something so inevitable we hardly talk or prepare for it. Somehow we think of death as a bad thing and fear it. The fear is not so much of the pain at the time of death, but it is the ending of the relationship with the things of this world.
But maybe that is not such a bad thing and we don’t have to fear it so much. Read more
A new comic is being released after a long while! One request that I’ve received frequently is to have the comics in color. So I’m trying something new with the style of the comics from now on. It’s going to be in color and will use elements from Persian & Turkish miniature paintings. This is the first Sufi Comic using this style. Hope you all like it 🙂
We live in a world where modern man is seen as nothing more than a glorified animal whose purpose is to maximize his sensory & sensual pleasures. It’s a world where we’re constantly bombarded with images of sexuality, and lowering the Gaze has become uncool.
Is “seeing” nothing more than processing of photon particles? Is beauty only in the external world of form? The External world is just a tiny reflection of Real beauty. Real beauty lies is in recognition of the formless.