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I got angry in a road rage incident


Anger

 

Remember the time when someone’s done wrong to you.  It could be something like facing a verbal / racial attack or someone scratched your car. How did it feel like?

You feel the rush of blood in your body. Your heart beats faster. There’s nothing in your mind other than taking out your anger verbally or even physically.

I recently got into a road rage conflict.  The guy in the bike was showering me with his verbal abuses.  My immediate feeling was to respond to him with a piece of my mind.

During the heat of the moment our anger feels completely justified. It feels like a fundamental birth right that we need to execute.

But in almost every case once the anger subsides, the same action seems like an over-reaction.   It’s like the clouds are removed and now you see it all clearly.

Luckily in this case, I wished him well and moved on.

I knew that by acting in a state of anger during the heat of the moment, I will regret my words & not feel good about it. And the worst part is I would not be able to undo my decision.

For many people the action they took in a state of anger haunts them for years to come.

Exercising patience when angry requires a change in mindset. I’ve talked about it in these comics Good Manners Melt a Hard Heart  |  The Forgiving Commander  |  Childish Behaviour

Know that it’s easy to get angry, but you are the better (and stronger) person if you exercise patience.

“A moment of patience in a moment of anger, prevents a thousand moments of regret.” ~ Imam Ali (a)


Mohammed Ali Vakil

Comments

Ruth
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I love your stories and words of wisdom, Mohammed Ali!
Makes me think of this little story I wrote a few years ago, after a teen committed suicide, when he made a mistake he thought would bring shame on his family. They would have forgiven him, but no one had read him this story, because I hadn’t written it yet!

http://www.edudesigns.org/newsletter_04.html

Mohammed Ali Vakil
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Thanks Ruth 🙂 I just read your story “I’M SORRY” and ” I’LL DO BETTER NEXT TIME” — very powerful words.

Tamanna
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Salaams 🙂
Great post. The points you raised are so important!
“Almost every case once the anger subsides, the same action seems like an over-reaction.” – this is very true.
I feel this post is applicable in each and every one of our lives. Indeed it takes a strong person to exercise patience in a time of anger/conflict! What a great reminder for us to always strive to be the best we can be!
I’m curious to know how the guy responded once you wished him well & moved on?

Mohammed Ali Vakil
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Thanks Tamanna. Well it didn’t make much of a difference. I think he was so absorbed in the conflict, I just moved on.

Hassan Mohammed
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Salam,

Beautiful post, I should learn from this hadith, the words of the master Ali (as) are like no other! Inshallah by his name that he helps me with my anger and by Allah (swt) permission I am given more patience! Ya Ali

Mohammed Ali Vakil
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Indeed Hassan 🙂 Imam Ali’s sayings are so deep with wisdom!

Sivaji
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Nice lesson and must to know for most of us. We all should learn to conquer our anger.
Not sure if I got this right. In phrase “My immediate feeling was to respond to him with a piece of my mind.” Is it piece or peace?

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